September 17, 2012

  • Break Up Rituals

    Acknowledging things give it power and legitimacy.  David is now single.  Its been two weeks. Long story short, our timing was off and our passions are pulling us in different directions for now.  It was a very mature break up, which makes it even harder.    Life is good and I wish her the best.  

    Alright back to me!  Focus people, focus.   Everyone knows when you break up, you get to go on a drinking binge and your boys are suppose to throw shots and girls your way. 

    Since my break up, I have not gotten drunk nor have I even called another girl up to fill the space.   

    I have instead gone back to church and went to a conference last week and a retreat this week.   I have made travel plans for myself in the next two months and I have surrounded myself with friends as I always have. 

    It is interesting, because no one treats me like I just broke up. There is no pity party and people are already making fun of me because I am single.

    Maybe, I am lucky and have peace and joy about the things to come and I know there are good plans in store for me.  Or maybe my defense mechanisms are kicking in.  I will continue to break down my thoughts and experiences over the next couple years about the lessons I learned in this last relationship.  Either way, I am doing really well right now. 

    Here is my current to do list:

    "Sleep in Peace. Wake up in Joy. Walk in Love." - Pastor PB

     

    Just keep climbing... just keep swimming. :D

Comments (26)

  • When I go out and get drunk after a break-up, it's not about pity, it's about celebration. 

  • Guess you will finally have time to go to happy hour with me now!  :)

  • @mr_jin_tonic - thats the right attitude!  

  • I'm glad that you're handling this well =]

  • Wow, great that you're doing really well. That's what's most important. I should put that on my to do list. 

  • I had a feeling that this was the case from your last post but I didn't really want to believe it ;( im sad :( but blah! we hang out soon~~~

  • the decisions we make are what shape us as who we are, and you not going wild after a breakup shows a strong sense of maturity in you. here's to happy times and new adventures :) hope all is well.

  • It's good that you have a healthy mindset and are handling it maturely. Sadly, I took the alcohol route when it was my turn. lol :X

  • Being single is amazing... let me know if you need some tips. :)

  • If my wife ever dumped me, I have it all planned as to what I would do---no anger, resentment, or crying. Take my half of the money and move to Hawaii. Since I am old and health failing, I would find an assisted living facility and move in. I would enjoy the beach as long as possible and die with no regrets.

  • My close friend broke up with her bf of seven years. Her ex is my husbands best friend, and he's handling the breakup pretty well too. There's no reason for rebound girls or to get shitfaced over a breakup. My husband and other friends don't even bring up their relationship unless he does which he doesn't do anyway. 

    Here's to a new chapter in your life!

  • I'll be going to Hawaii with Frank. (He just doesn't know it yet) See above comment from ANVRSADDAY.

    Enjoy your single days.         

  • its so much worse i think because the break up is so logical. i mean i hate that...like i would prefer some passion or even anger but a logical break up just kills me.

  • Remember the wages of too much drinking is a terrible headache.

    This is your blog and you can rant all you want.
    People can be scared of upsetting you and usually respect your privacy. It is a double edged sword and you need to screen out the folks you do not want to reveal too much.
    Love can be a weakness but under the spell of love, why do we feel so good?

  • :( ((

    but hey, you have a great attitude

  • I am glad you are trying to stay positive about it. I know there's more than meets the eye.

  • Way to handle a break-up. Hats off to you man. 

  • traveling is good

  • You are handling things well. 

    Personally, I don't get why being single again is so bad.  I luv it.  I mean, I think it's good to be in a relationship too but I don't think it's the end of the world if you're single again.  So many factors involved that makes people single.

  • very mature of you. i definitely throw all my dignity aside when i have a breakup. it's not a pretty time in my life.

  • Is the breakup less painful because you two handled it in a mature way?

  • Thata boy!! Everyone should have such a wonderful outlook as this! :)

  • i don't get why breakups are regarded as sad times. it signifies a change for the better. if there were enough reasons to stay, you would have stayed; but the act of breaking up says leaving weighs out staying. it's a sign of moving forward and that's something to be happy about.

  • I'm glad you're doing well David. Didn't know you guys broke up, sorry to hear it couldn't have lasted. Things aren't always the way it seems, can't say I know exactly what you're going through, but keeping busy is always a good thing! 

  • Wow. I am so behind.... How do you cope so well with break ups, especially with a long-term relationship? I applaud you, Man-beasty. I have lots to learn. I hope you're doing well. :)

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