July 20, 2012
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deserving better
sometimes i feel like i am where i am because i cant do better. i believe your social context and the way your parents raised you really follow you through your adult life.
i am reading the art of seduction by robert greene and it talks about women who have had fathers dote on them through their childhood and given them everything. these daughters grow up with that sense of confidence and knowing that the world should bow down to them because they have been treated that way in their younger years. It is what is expected. inversely, girls that grow up with daddy issues , fathers that are not there or worst a deadbeat, grow up with much lower expectations. when confronted into situations with boyfriends that dont treat them well or even jobs that are abusive, they have learned to settle since that has been the standard they faced their entire lives.
fathers love your daughters and provide for your sons. it honestly shapes us in intangible, subconscious ways that truly linger. but like all chains, links can be broken and knowing our natural states we can push forth to arenas and situations in which the soul and mind can truly flourish. that being said, i continue my journey of breaking through. girl, you are beautiful and worth more than you will ever know. i just wanted to let you know you are not a horrible person. <3
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Both of my daughters are waiting for a Disney Prince! haha
great post, thought I just want to point out that what was written about daughters and fathers is a stereotype. even the term "daddy issues" is used to loosely. what does it mean "daddy issues"? not having a father who was there or having an abusive father? those are very different scenarios and it's too easy to generalize and say something like "girls with daddy issues settle for less." a lot of times girls with supposed "daddy issues" work harder to get more in their careers and in their personal lives.
I find it offensive when guys make comments to me like "how come you turned out so well even though you came from a broken home?" It's extremely condescending. Is that supposed to be a compliment? It sounds like an insult on my family.
that last bit wasn't related to your posted but I just wanted to rant a little since you've pretty much been ignoring me since I left the country. =p
I must be the exception. I have daddy issues and I think I'm Awesome
I like this entry. great post
@petitetokio - You are.
@petitetokio - Daddy issues fo sheezy.
This is awesome.
I have daddy issues, but I know I'm still his favourite. What does that make me? Hahahaha
This post makes me think of Daughters, by John Mayer.
I think we all have daddy issues, even with the best dads, our families fail in one area or another. There will always be something our family didn't get right. Its embracing what they did get right and being compassionate about the rest. There was a LOT my parents didn't get right.
That book sounds interesting.
@vysion - haha it should. there is that one line i slipped in there that was totally john mayer
im a daddys girl <3
"that being said, i continue my journey of breaking through. girl, you
are beautiful and worth more than you will ever know. i just wanted to
let you know you are not a horrible person. <3"
^^^ you dont have to tell me something i already know ;p
@petitetokio - <3
@jeannie_dot_com - hahaha. i just wanted to remind you i guess
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