June 25, 2012
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Simple
"Why can't he and I just be friends?" she says.
"Because it hurts your ex-bf too much to be friends with you and he has a girlfriend now," I say.
"Well life would be simpler if we could be friends."
"Have you ever thought you are the one that makes it complicated, because you are the one trying to be friends with him and he doesn't want it?"
"Didn't you say you would be more agreeable so things could be simpler?"
"I forgot. You are right. Why do I argue with you?"
"Yes, like I said things would be simpler if we could all be friends."
"Agreed."
If we stop figuring out where everything stands, where our relationships are categorized, and what this all means we might just have some time for some fun. But black and white is safe and boring, while shades of grey are dangerous. I am happy if you are happy. Life is simpler that way.
And who is going to argue with always staying friends?
Comments (8)
Hmm....
Most of the time, it's harder to move on emotionally if you stay friends with an ex right after the break up (even if one or the other already has a new beau/belle). Everyone needs their space for a little while. Sometimes they need that space, that distance, forever. I'm friends with only one ex, and we didn't become friends again until a couple of years after the break up.
Me. I'd def. argue with it.
hm...yah I suppose it's better to no longer be friends but it saddens me coz I'd rather continue being friends forever..
So let's make it simply complicated.
I had to learn that the hard way, just like everything else in life! Wish I could be one of those who can learn from others' mistakes. But I'm stubborn.
Some people you can't be "just friends" with, but isn't that the beauty of it?
I personally think its selfish and self serving whenever the dumper wants to remain friends with the dumpee after breaking his or her heart. I think people do that to ease the guilt they personally feel inside or to avoid potential unpleasant aftermath by offering an obligatory consolation for rejecting somebody. That or they're too selfish to let go of somebody completely for the dumpee to move on. Life definitely would be a lot simpler if we could all be friends -- simpler for the dumper, but not the dumpee.
Lol. It's actually MUCH simpler to NOT be friends. I mean, it takes effort and time and money and moving around schedules to be friends with someone. Being friends is an active thing. Think of how easy it is to NOT be friends with the billions of people on this planet.
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