April 25, 2012

  • Stratifications

    I read into things too much. It may be my downfall one day.  I got 250+ Fb happy birthday wishes.  I got 30+ fan signs and the majority of all the people I love came out to San Jose for a quick dinner at Santana Row.

    With this, I still look back at some of the friends I lost along the way.   A majority of my high school friends didn't wish me happy bday.  These were the people I thought I would be friends forever but we have drifted very far apart.  And a lot of my closest Christian friends from college didn't wish me happy birthday.  
    I do not know why.   But I guess there is that stage in between the people you see every day and complete strangers.  People that use to be close in your life but now are a bit distant.  Somehow people just drift away.

    Weddings are coming.  And by the buttloads.  It honestly is the second wave of weddings.  Approaching 26 now, a whole 'nother set of my friends are getting married.  Not everyone is invited to each wedding.  People that you thought was close friends arent so close anymore.  I know money is tight, seating is limited,  and if you invite this person do you have to invite this other person situation, but I am keeping track.  

    To me, saying I am not inviting you to my wedding is simultaneous as saying as I move into my next stage of my life, I don't think I want you there or I don't think you will play a significant part.  

    But this is normal.  Relationships cant always stay the same.  People grow.  People change.  

    And some things in the pasts aren't worth looking for.  And some relationships in the past were better in your memories than they actually were.  

    Thank you for all the fansigns and birthday wishes.   I am finally hitting my quarter life crisis. I am a year late.  Asking myself, where do I go from here and who should I take with me?    

Comments (15)

  • Sad but true. Sometimes you just grow apart. Nature of growing up

  • My friends from high school are gone too.

  • I'm glad my HS friends are gone... lol

    And - I don't think people change. Their intentions do.

  • Man you're not alone...seems like after hitting 25 you just start thinking a whole lot about these things...

  • i guess what matters is the people you truly care about wish you happy birthday. This is life man, you dont need to have whoever/anyone in your life. You want the important ones. And after people got married, its gonna get worse. I'm turning 26 and ive got too much to live for. As long as the people i care are there, i'm satisfied.

    Happy belated bday. =)

  • You either grow together or grow apart. 

  • you've been talking about this quarter life crisis for years now. =p

  • :) thats just how things are ~ there's no time in one person's life to be super close to 500 + ppl at once all the people that were once close are still "close" in my heart even if we dont talk very often

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  • Happy Belated Bday!  

  • it is so true. people move on and find their own common group of people to hang out with. 

    dont get happy bdays on my FB wall that much cause never put my birthday on the profile anyway.  only a couple of friends knew and posted a happy bday message without fb notifying them lol.

  • Wow... interesting take on relationships. My birthday just passed too and I had more facebook Happy Birthdays than I could care to count (in the hundreds seeing as I have friends in the thousands). Most of them are from random people I couldn't care less about.

    I've come to learn that not everyone you love can be there for all your big moments in life. And that's okay. When you guys do get a chance to get together again, whether it be on your birthday, at your wedding, or some random Tuesday at the street corner supermarket 10 years later, it's still a celebration of friendship. You're still a part of each others lives and hold them close.

    I mean.. think of all the people you see everyday and know about all your big accomplishment but you don't even like them, like your co-workers.

    For the record, I NEVER wish anyone a happy birthday or happy wedding or congratulations on Facebook. It seems to get lost in a sea of other shallow greeters. But you bet if I'm around them during those times, I'll take them out for lunch/dinner. Heck, I'll take them out even if there is nothing going on.

  • @youngvan - i agree. i don't wish people happy birthday on facebook especially if i only know it's their birthday BECAUSE of facebook. 

    i think by the time you are getting married, you really are moving into a new stage in life. if you are doubting whether you should invite a friend from high school, well you're probably better off not inviting them because you even have to think about it. it'll be that way from now on. do you send them christmas pictures, family photos, invite them to housewarmings...

  • no need to keep up with the joneses. as tempting as it may be. go at your own pace. just do what you want to do.

    always here to talk to too.

  • The fact that you make the assumption that if people don't wish you happy bday it means they don't consider you as a friend or don't care for you is a very narcissistic thought. People have lives of their own as well, you're not the center of the universe, though that is a nice thought to have. 

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